Wanting to harm myself
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Having urges to self harm can feel very distressing and frightening. We might be facing difficult situations or life events that can lead us down the path of wanting to self harm as a means of trying to deal with the painful thoughts and feelings. However, there are other ways of coping and it's important to discover alternatives to self harm that still give us a sense of emotional release but in a way that is kind, supportive and much less destructive to ourselves and our wellbeing.
Finding new ways of coping takes time and sometimes it's a case of trial and error. What works for me may not work for you. When you are feeling in a bit more resilient and in a calmer headspace explore sensory objects and items that bring you comfort i.e. a blanket, or stroking a pet. Are there any particular smells that you find calming such as lavender or citrus? Are you someone that finds physical activity helpful such as running or dancing? Maybe you're crafty and enjoy having a creative focus and outlet.
If you are feeling distressed and wanting to self harm see below some alternative tips and other resources that might be helpful.
Have a cold shower/splash cold water on your face (I find the shock of the cold water on my skin quite distracting from my ruminating thoughts)
Screw and rip up pieces of paper
Punch a pillow or cushion
Play your favorite song as loud as you can and dance around the room
If you feel safe enough to do so go for a brisk walk with a family member or friend. I find the act of physically moving my body can help shift some of the distress and tension.
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Other resources
Stay Alive
An app packed full of information to keep you safe if you are having thoughts of suicide or if you are concerned about somebody else having these thoughts.
Free app (with add on purchases). Uses CBT, cognitive behavioural therapy, to help you cope with depression, anxiety, stress and more.
Live a happier and healthier life with this app’s bitesize meditations. Great for stress and for sleeping difficulties. It also offers SOS exercises for distressing times.
www.studentsagainstdepression.org
This website provides you with a calm environment and the resources to help you find a way forward
An app that helps you to resist the feelings of wanting to selfharm and help you manage your urges.
A free resource, developed by the CEO's of Youth Mental Health Foundation, to support parents and carers of young people who self harm.
Visit our external services page for information on organisations who might be able to help you further.
